When gay marriage is legalized in the United States, a couple, Jack and Caleb, begin going to gay weddings. At the first gay wedding, celebrating the marriage of two of Caleb’s friends, Jack is anxious that people think he and Caleb will be getting married. Jack was curious as to what a federal gay marriage would actually look like--and if it would be stereotypical. 

Jack, a Korean-American man, has suspicions about Caleb and his previous boyfriends. He wonders how many Korean-American ex-boyfriends and friends Caleb has. He fears that Caleb may be a ‘rice-queen’ and may only be dating him because he is Korean. Jack dated a rice queen once and desires to never do that again. However, Jack is comforted by the diversity of attendees at the wedding. 

Jack thinks of marrying Caleb and is enchanted by the idea. On the car ride home, however, Jack discovers that Caleb is against marriage. Though, Caleb found some of the weddings to be charming. 

Jack and Caleb receive their second wedding invitation from Jack’s old friend Scott. Scott will be having both a Korean and Western ceremony. He specifically wants Jack to be at the Korean ceremony. Scott was a white man who attended university with Jack. In college, Scott dates a series of Asian-American, mostly Korean women. Jack briefly recalls the last time he saw Scott. Scott was just beginning to date his future wife, Soon-mi. 

On the phone, Scott makes a joke about a Korean wedding tradition to Jack, whom he assumes knows it because he is Korean. This bothers Jack because he is the child of immigrants who taught their children to assimilate and not ask questions. Jack does not know much about his Korean heritage, though many people assume that he does. This invitation is startling to Jack because he hadn’t heard from Scott in almost two years. However, he asks Caleb if he wants to go to the wedding, and Caleb does. 

Jack never told Caleb about his relationship with Scott in college. In college, Jack always thinks Scott is handsome but straight. They become close friends after meeting on the crew team. Scott tells Jack he feels Korean inside. This really confuses Jack who grew up in Maine in the 1970s. Jack knows a lot about Korean culture and history—more so than Jack. Scott, according to Jack’s friends (and later Jack), is a rice-queen. 

After graduating, Jack goes back to school where Scott is finishing more credits when he hears that Scott has a crush on him. Scott confesses his feelings and they have sex. This is the first time Jack has had sex with someone he loves. Jack leaves the morning and the two do not speak for ten years. In a decade, Jack calls up Scott after finding his number on Google. Scott goes to visit Jack and New York and the pair catch up. Scott, living in California, actually has an apartment near Jack in New York for when he is there on business. Over dinner, Scott tells Jack that Jack’s penis is the only man’s penis he’s ever touched. Then Scott tells Jack that he has intimacy issues and that is why he has trouble staying in touch with people. Jack is pained as he loves Scott but knows he is trouble. 

The two see each other again for their fortieth birthday. Scott pays for a penthouse and they invite bunch of their friends from college to celebrate. In Scott's room, Jack sees a bunch of sex toys including a dildo. Scott explains that Soon-mi likes them and that she will be coming over after Jack leaves. 

Jack tells the story to Caleb who laughs in all the right places. Caleb tells Jack that if he brought a bag of sex toys to a party, people would only see it if he wanted them to. 

A flood causes Jack and Caleb to be late for the Korean ceremony. They miss it entirely. When they arrive, they only find white guests, so they assume the Korean ceremony must still be proceeding. Jack and Caleb change into their suits in the bathroom and take a selfie and post it on Instagram. They joke about getting married. They exit and find the buffet and dinner being set up. Jack notices the absence of Korean food and wonders if there is a separate dinner for Korean people. Jack wonders why he is even at the wedding. 

Caleb and Jack met accidentally. One day while getting the mail in his apartment complex, Caleb notices Jack walking Sheila, his neighbor’s dog. They make small-talk each time they see each other. Eventually, Caleb runs into Jack in town and they are acquainted. 

Soon thereafter, the Korean guests pile into the yard. Caleb and Jack see Soon-mi. She is gorgeous. At the table, a lady comments that Jack looks like Tiger Wood who she says is part-oriental. Caleb goes along with the joke and concludes that he does not see it. Scott interrupts to greet Jack. Soon-mi comes over as well. She makes a remark that makes it seem as if she knows quite a bit about Jack and Scott’s history.

Jack watches the couple and wonders if Scott loves her. Jack and Caleb leave and go to the hotel bar. They run into a blonde woman who recognizes Jack. Jack can’t place who she is. She introduces herself as Jen and says they met at Scott’s graduation back when she was his girlfriend.

Jack goes to the car and when he returns, he sees Jen crying on Caleb’s lap. He overhears Koreans, presumably Soon-Mi’s friends, giving a toast in Korean. One friend is chastised by another for not knowing much Korean. This comment bothers Jack as he does not know Korean as a Korean-American. 

Jack goes back to Caleb and Jen. They help get Jen who is extremely drunk upstairs to her room. Caleb explains what happened to Jack. Scott had cheated on Jen and gotten another girl pregnant. The girl had a miscarriage. This all happened the summer after Scott’s graduation. 

Caleb asks Jack if he is over Scott. Jack says yes, then he and Caleb have sex. The next day they attend the western ceremony. A microphone accidentally picks up Father Kim arguing with someone about gay marriage. Jack wonders if it is because of his and Caleb’s presence at the wedding. 

Jack finds it ironic that Scott is running away from his white, Christian, conservative family to marry an affluent, conservative evangelical Korean one. 

Later at the dinner, the placement for any couple says Mr. and Mrs., excluding gay and dating relationships. It turns out all of the queer people at the wedding were seated at this table. They talk about how they know Scott, and Jack suspects some of them may have had similar experiences with Scott.

On his way out, Jack says goodbye to Scott, but Scott gives him a canned answer. Jack reminds them that they know each other, and Scott apologizes, embarrassed.

Jack and Caleb share stories about this wedding for a long time and get married two years later.